Even in a Kiss

"He is in everything. Even in a kiss." - The Count of Monte Cristo

The past couple of months have been really difficult for Nick and I as we have been transitioning to different work places and schools,  and dealing with apartment issues, sickness and family emergencies. But they have been filled with equal amounts of joy and love. Readers expect me to be a more dedicated blogger, for I have learned so much and have so much to share with you about life and love.

With these months being so difficult Nick and I have really been depending on our faith in our Savior to get us through every single moment. It has not been easy to pray and trust that things will turn out ok, but our relationship as a couple has been strengthened so much because of it and I will tell you why, it's because of a simple choice.  That choice is Choosing God every day. Every morning especially on the difficult days I have woken up and decided that I am going to choose to follow and love God today, that I am going to turn the other cheek to those that have hurt me, to look for ways to serve others, to study the scriptures instead of reading/watching other media or social networks, and to being open to the Lords will for me every day.

 Through that simple choice I have noticed little things change, like being more patient with situations, accepting that there is only so much I can do sometimes and being ok with that, being more cheerful while waiting for things to be ok, looking for little ways to serve and love others around me, and praying so much more every day to our Father in Heaven for help and direction,  and seeing  his love and guidance every day as I look for it.

I noticed another things was changing too...... my marriage.  I realized the same principle applied with loving my spouse as it did my Father in Heaven. I decide to choose Nick every day because I love him and I want to love him even more every day. So I wake up every morning and I choose to love him, I choose to better show him that love every day and to look for ways to encourage him, to spend more quality time with him instead of my computer screen,  I choose to serve him and work things through with him, to be patient and to never give up on him, to make him the priority of my life. Choosing him allows my love for him to grow even more every single day as I learn more about him and strive to serve and help him.  It all starts with a Good Morning Kiss. It's so simple and yet it is the best marriage/ life advice I can give.

 Wake up every Morning and choose God and your Spouse. Through those active choices you will notice your marriage strengthening as well as your faith. For they compete each other.  Marriage is a three way street between you, your spouse and God.  I know that when I married Nick in the Beautiful Bountiful Temple we covenanted to make God an equal part of our marriage.  And by doing so I know he more than equally blesses our lives. I am so grateful for that especially on the days I don't want to get out of bed because of depression, or sickness, or stress. Those days I am so grateful for my Spouse choosing me too, through a beautiful Good Morning Love Kiss.

I know God is everywhere blessing us, especially in kisses, and I know that when we make him a part of our kisses, marriages and lives. The simple things will become so much greater than we could ever dream of and we will be so blessed and so unbelievably happy.

With Love REB&NICK

PS: Here is Sara Bareilles music video for "I Choose You" I feel her and I are on the same page with this topic of choosing to love your love every day :)

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A Better than Irish Blessing

In the Spirit of St. Patrick's Day I wrote a fun Limerick about how Nick and I met.

There once was a lad who loved to sing

About the love fate one day would bring

God led a lass to his door

In need of hope to the core

So he rescued her with a better than Irish Blessing.

Limericks are so fun right! I challenge you all to write your own.

If you're new to this blog here is the full story of how I met my darling husband Nick

How Reb met Nick

Also for fun here is an actual Irish Blessing

Happy St. Patrick's Day Everybody

With Love REB&NICK

How Reb Met Nick

04/22/2012

Our meeting story is very close to my heart as it was a very spiritual and emotional experience for me.  I had that day just left a relationship that wasn't going in the right direction, it was difficult for me as I loved that relationship and the person I was with.  But I knew deep down in my heart that it wasn't right so I had to leave it behind.  The thought of facing the future alone, trying to leave my feelings in the past was one of the hardest experiences of my life. Until I met Nick and was given the hope and inspiration I needed, to start taking my life in the direction that led to my happy beginning.

I had known Nicks brother Dave for a while as he was good friends with my roommate Kim. When Kim found out about the breakup she said that Dave good give me a blessing to help me move forward. So we started driving to Dave's house and we were listening to Kim's Ipod, a song called "Next to Me" by Double or Nothing.  I had recently heard them at the Weber State Winter Special Olympic Winter Games Closing Ceremony and had loved them so I was super excited that she knew about them too.  I exclaimed to her how much I loved the song and she said, "This is Dave's brother's band, he's the lead singer. He's probably at the house right now if you want to meet him." My heart started pounding I was totally shocked!! In my head it didn't make sense, Nick was white and Dave was Hispanic how are they brothers. Kim then explained to me how half of Dave's family including Dave was adopted. So I frantically started fixing me hair in the car, as I was about to meet my current favorite artist.

We walked into the house and Dave introduced me to Nick and I was completely star struck, I don't even think I said anything for a couple minutes. Gosh he was attractive up close. We did the whole my names Nick and my name is Bekah thing, I told him what a big fan I was, and how I had his songs on my ipod. (Looking back on it now, I was probably being really creepy). He then offered to play me a song he wrote called "She," which is one of my favorites. It was beautiful and in my head I was totally thinking that I was the girl in the song, and that he loved me....you know silly star struck girl thoughts. It was absolutely a dream come true.

Kim then came into the room saying that we were their so Dave could give me a blessing, but he had disappeared. Nick, being the great man he is, then offered to give me the blessing instead.  I remember that he said a little prayer before he started, and that I started crying the minute he put he hands on my head. He then gave me the most detailed, profound blessings that I have ever had in my life, he quoted sections of my patriarchal blessing, promising me the deepest desires of my heart. After the blessing with tears in my eyes I said, "How did you know," he replied "I didn't God did."  It was absolutely incredulous to me how a man I had never even met before could say what he did to me in that blessing.  It was impossible for him to know things so personal to me that I had never before told a single soul.  It was an absolutely unforgettable spiritual experience.

So of course I was totally in my head thinking that he was the one and I was going to marry him. Seriously I developed the biggest crush on him! Which at the time, he in no way reciprocated unfortunately for me. But he burned me a copy of all his latest music, signed it and said we should hang out sometime. It was love at first sight for me. I knew I wanted to be with him, or at least someone like him. He had given me the strength to move forward, and I  needed that for the difficult months that were just ahead in the future.  It was five months later that he made good on that offer to hang out, which would be known as our first date, and the beginning of a beautiful relationship.

The moral to the story: When you finally let go of the wrong things, the right things will finally have the place they need in your arms, your life, and in your heart.

                                                With Love, Reb&Nick